And any of that might be how a person feels about these kinds of sex all the time, even through a lifetime, or how they feel about it and the experiences they have might (and more often do) vary from one time of life to another, or feel one way in one sexual relationship or interaction, but different with another. Some might find it too intense, or not intense enough. However, some people don't like that type of sensation. Many of us have similar body parts and anatomy, but the way our nerve endings respond to different sensations isn't the same.įor example, many people enjoy stimulation of the clitoris or other parts of the vulva with a hand, vibrator, or mouth/tongue. Generally speaking, what feels great or sounds appealing to me very well might not feel or sound so great to you. Everyone is different, and we all have different preferences for sexual activities. When it comes to sex and sexual pleasure, nothing is really 'normal' or 'abnormal'.

Let's talk about the first part of your question.

It sounds like you have two different concerns in your question: that it is not normal for you to not be experiencing pleasure (or much sensation at all) while receiving oral sex, and that you also don't want your boyfriend to feel bad about that.

Doesnt affect me